HONEYMOON
CYCLE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
WHAT IS ABUSE ?
Many people who are being abused do not see themselves as victims. Also, abusers do not see themselves as being abusive. People often think of Family Violence as physical violence, such as hitting, However Domestic Violence takes other forms, such
as spiritual, psychological, emotional,
or sexual abuse.
Stage 1: TENSION BUILDING
1. Abuser starts to get angry.
2. Abuse may begin.
3. There is a breakdown of communcation.
4. Victims feel the need to keep the abuser calm.
5. Tension becomes too much.
6. Victims feel like they are walking on egg shells.
Stage 2: EXPLOSION! The Abuse Occurs:
1. Name calling or
putdown.
2. Pushing, hitting, slapping, kicking,
choking, spiting,
biting
3. Threats
4. Injuries
5. Murder
Stage 3: Honeymoon
1. Abuser may apologize for abuse.
2. Abuser may promise it will never happen again.
3. Abuser may blame the victim for causing the abuse.
4. Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not
as bad as the victim claims.
5. Abuser may give gifts to victim.
6. Victims may hope that the abuse is over.
I GOT FLOWERS TODAY
I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday
or any other special day.
Last night we had a fight and he hit me. But I know he is sorry,
Cause I got Flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me against the wall and started to choke me.But I know he's sorry,
Cause I got Flowers today. I got Flowers today. It wasn't Mothers Day or any other special day. I was so swollen and bruised I was ashamed to answer the door. But I know he's sorry, Cause I got Flowers today. if I leave him, where will I go? What about money? What about my kids? It's getting worse every time but I'm afraid to
leave. But I know he's sorry, Cause I got Flowers today. I got Flowers today. My family and friends filed by to see me Asking why I never left him. if I only had the strength and courage to. But I didn't So I got Flowers today.
Husbands, love your
wives, and be not
bitter against them.
Col 3:13
But I (JESUS) say unto you, that whosoever is angry
with his brother (wife, childern ...) without a cause shall
be in danger of Judgement...and whosoever shall say,
you fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. MATTHEW 5:22
Every nine (9) seconds in America, a woman is abused. National research shows that battering is the leading cause of death to women in the U.S., more than rapes, mugging and traffic accidents combined.
Phone: (661) 380-6218
Let all bitterness, and wrath,
and anger, and clamour,
and evil speaking, be put away from you with all malice. Ephesians 4:31
